Love

Love is so much more than finding someone to give your love to. It's learning how to love yourself first. It took me a LONG time to learn how to do this- in fact, I'm still learning.  I think the first step is self-awareness. Do you know who you are? How can you expect to love, if you don't truly know yourself first? Once you have a better understanding of self, then you'll have a better understanding of what your expectations will be, how high you set the bar, & what kind of person would be the most compatible with you. 

Keep in mind, the law of attraction. You will attract what you give off. Read more here and download the free VF Love worksheet below. Keep in mind, what kind of eyes are you attracting? This is YOUR life. No one else can take the reins and no one else can fix it for the better, only you. How do you truly view yourself and what kind of eyes are you attracting? 

Love Languages

Love Languages are important. I didn't realize this until I was about 27-28. It helped me understand what I needed, how my kids responded best, and what my then finance (now husband) needed as well. Acts of Service and Words of Affirmation are HUGE for me. Now that I know this, I can see the red flags and calmly address it, instead of getting upset and not fully understanding why? 

My kids are the same way. Once I understood how they operated, it was much easier to communicate and deal with issues or, to incentivize them. My daughter responds very well to words of affirmation too. So after she's done a good job at a chore or at school, I'll be sure and tell her what a great job she's done and give her a hug. That's huge for her. My son, it's physical touch. So hugging him, sitting on the couch and watching a movie, or sitting by him at dinner are big for him. Want to know what your love language is?? Take the test! It's free (by Gary Chapman).

Download the teen test or the adult, single test | by Gary Chapman

Check out the book below for a more detailed run-down of how important love languages are: